Knowingly or unknowingly we can sometimes fall into the trap of competing with others. Maybe when someone casually mentions they travel at least once a month, we take it as our own goal. Or we start following someone’s lifestyle of excessive workouts and try to live up to their definition of a good workout.

As long as you are conscious about the competitiveness, or about you falling into the FOMO (fear of missing out) trap, its okay. You know what you are getting into! 😉

Many times it’s so subtle that we lose track of our selves and what we want to do with our lives.

How we wish to spend our time, energy and money.

A more fulfilling approach according to me, is to spend the time and effort to understand what really matters to you.

What your purpose in life is, what your values are and what energizes you.

You can then do an audit if you are spending your time, energy and money in line with what matters to you, according to you.

You can see the areas where you are just following someone which is taking away from the things which actually matter to you. And once you have this clarity, you can go out and find your community.

Finding a bunch of people with the same interests as you can be fun and gives a sense of community, You could also indulge in ‘healthy’ competition sometimes so that all of you get a boost towards your goals.

So the next time you wish you had some activity or item someone has, take a pause. Think why this thing feels so attractive to you. Maybe its really something you wish for, or maybe its just the way someone is projecting it which makes want to have it as well.